I'm just not that into you
It is 2:58am and I am wide awake in a double bed while my two oldest sons are asleep. We are in a hotel room somewhere in South Carolina. I use the term asleep loosely because my oldest is so excited that he is flipping back and forth. These are the type of moments that I want to remember. It's the adventure.
One of the traps I often fall into is social media. I find myself wasting hours of my day checking the little red notifications on my phone. Trying to keep up with it all is a full time job. I have tried to automate my life. If post on twitter to have it pushed to Facebook. If I post on Instagram have it pushed to twitter and Facebook. This never ending cycle of trying to be social when the truth of it all is that social media isn't social.
I photographed a wedding a few years back with my good friend Gabe Aceves. The groom at the wedding created an app that would track how often you pick up your phone. Kevin Holesh, the groom, is a genius. I got home and immediately downloaded the Moment app. After about 6 days, I realized I was picking up my phone for about 7 to 8 hours a day. A lot of that time was spent checking social media.
Over the last few days something occurred to me. If I have 24 hours in a day to be successful and 6 hours is spent sleeping, 1 hour excercising, 8 hours working, 1 hour watching TV and 7 hours checking my phone then that means I only have 1 hour left in a day to be successful. Let's be honest, I'm probably eating during that 1 hour. That means, I have no time in a day to be a better father, a better husband or friend, an entrepreneur or time to invest in my family. That's absolutely crazy.
Something has to give and that something is social media. I need to be more present. Noah starts kindergarten in four weeks. I want his memories to not be of me looking down at my screen checking meaningless notifications. I want his memories to be the adventures we will go on in the next four weeks. The piling in a small bed in a random hotel with his dad and brother while his mom and other brother sleep in the bed beside us. It is about the adventures not the notifications.
I am going to spend the next four weeks breaking up with social media. I plan on blogging on my website in the wee hours of the morning while everyone sleeps and Ill push my thoughts to social media but I won't be interacting with you. If you care to follow my random thoughts, then good. I hope you find a some use out it. In the meantime, I plan on spending my time building true meaningful relationships with people.
Social media, It's not you it's me. I'm just not that into you.