I am happy to be a father. I have only really had one idea about being a successful father and that idea was to try to do better than my father. I know that sounds horrible but as I ponder about being a father, I realized how great my father had been when I was younger. When my mother was strung out my father picked us up one night and I did not see my birth mother again until I was a senior in high school. I see in the news and on social media so many fathers giving up. My father did not. He fought for me. My father taught me hard work. He taught me entrepreneurship. He taught me that a little hard work went a lot longer than a temporary short cut. He taught me to always believe in myself and to appreciate the good and the bad. As I have gotten older our relationship hasn't been the same but I appreciate the lessons he taught me.
My father in law has taught me different things. He has taught me that love is unconditional. He has taught me the love of Christ. He has been a model of everything that I hope to be as a father when I get older. He has always been there to chat about an assortment of things and treats me as the son that he never had. To say that I am blessed to have him in my life would be an understatement.
The hardest thing about being a dad has very little to do with actually being a dad. It has everything to do with being married. It's the hardest thing I have ever done. My wife is wonderful, perfect and flawed. I know it sounds like an oxymoron. I am difficult, stubborn, a know it all and a grace robber. I often times fail to give the grace to her that I so desperately ask for a lot of times. She always puts us first even when I don't. I would not be the person I am today. Her love is never ending even when we argue. I often think of the times when we are fighting or yelling at each other about something stupid if she wished for another situation. Then in the quiet she does something that shows me she is in this for the long haul. We so often only show the good side of life. The highlights. We don't show the "shit". It's because we are embarrassed that we are not perfect. Kari, the woman who has made me a father has taught me that marriage is worth fighting for even when it's not what you see on social media.
All I am saying is to never stop learning and to be always be willing to be taught something, it's the only way you or I can even grow.